Taking Control Of Your Wedding Day
More and more often, I hear my brides say things like, "I just want everyone to be happy," "I have fallen in love with this wedding dress, but [someone] doesn't like it," or "We would like to have a first look, but my family would be upset." Statements like these drive me insane!
Who's wedding day is it? The answer is yours and your fiance's. No one else's.
I cannot stress this enough. I don't care if they are pitching in on the bill or if they fit the whole thing. It is your wedding day. Make it yours.
This post is not to say disregard everything that your family or friends say. It is also not giving you permission to transform into a bridezilla. My goal is to give you that boost of confidence you need to stick up for yourself and remove the negativity surrounding what is supposed to be nothing but positive.
If your bridesmaid doesn't like where you've chosen to go on your bachelorette weekend…
Don't invite her.
If your mom hates the dress that makes you feel like the most confident and beautiful bride you can be…
Ignore her and don't invite her to the next fitting. Chances are, she's going to be just as happy on your wedding day, regardless of the dress you choose.
If you have to cut your guest list for any reason and your friend's or family's feelings get bruised because they didn't make the cut…
Sincerely apologize and maybe give them an explanation. But let them be upset. No matter what your reasoning is, whether it be budget, venue capacity, or desire for an intimate wedding. It is your decision to make, and their feelings do not have to sway it.
The only people that matter when it comes to making the big decisions for your day are you and your fiance. Taking a step back from people being negative and bringing you down when it comes to what is supposed to be one of the most special days of your life is more than okay! Protect your feelings, girl, you have enough on your plate. Don't let their negativity affect your stress levels which are already at an all-time high.
If you are someone that is partial to being walked over by friends or family, it would be in your best interest to hire a wedding planner. A wedding planner can act as a mediator between the couple, their vendors, and even their family members. Their job is to make sure everything goes smoothly from the time they are hired to the end of the wedding night. That includes if members of the family or wedding party are trying to go against the bride or groom's wishes. They're an impartial party that can mitigate conflicts and boosts your confidence in your decisions. Specifically because a wedding planner only has to answer to you! Not to say that I don't care what your mom has to say about the floral arrangements, but as a general rule, I will not deviate from what you and I have agreed upon unless you tell me specifically that someone other than you and your fiance has executive decision-making privileges.
Be confident. It's your wedding day. Don't let anyone take the magic away from you.
